22 August 2011
Can I Really "Forgive & Forget"?
This, I feel, was a brilliantly written article by Jon Swinton, and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. He attempts to address the topic of letting go and building.
I 100% agree with him about the adage of "forgive and forget", I hate it as well.
One thing not covered in the article is sometimes breaks to trust can be so damaging, so harmful, and so traumatic that it will be hard to even forget about on a daily basis, let alone forgive the perpetrator. Sometimes breaks in trust kill a relationship. So there is no point in resurrecting the relationship. Know that that is an option as well.
However, if this a violation of trust that can eventually be repaired, follow the three steps/phases outlined by Swinton.