30 July 2010
Your child learns how to be treated by watching you.
Read it in it's entirety on the Battleford's News Optimist website, or at Essential Fathers or Notes on Parenting.
29 July 2010
Would you rather smoke 15 cigarettes or have a close friend?
For more information, read this news article on KSL.
Etiquette Lessons Adults Can Learn From Kids
- It's polite to say "please" and "thank you"
- It's not nice to interrupt
- Phone conversations should be private
- It's not nice to swear
28 July 2010
Making Wedding Anniversaries Meaningful
To get more information, please visit Julie Hanks website.
Gearing Up For Kindergarten
North Dakota State University Extension has a new school readiness program called "Gearing up for Kindergarten." This video describes the program and shows all the fun and education that parents and children can have together while preparing for school.
27 July 2010
How Can I Best Help My Husband Overcome Pornography?
Get Your Kids To Purchase TV Time By Reading
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Read the entire post on Notes on Parenting or Essential Fathers.
21 July 2010
What's the Big Deal About Pornography: A Guide for the Internet Generation
20 July 2010
Winnipeg Sun's Disrespect for Human Life is a Reflection of Our Intimate Relationships
Music & Your Toddler
Music can play an important role in your toddler’s life.
Read the entire post at Essential Fathers or Notes on Parenting.
14 July 2010
Winnipeg Harvest Food Drive July 17
I have been asked to help organize the Winnipeg Harvest food drive this week. I have been assigned to the St. James part of Winnipeg. We are delivering door hangers to 13,000 in the area where we will be picking up none perishable food items between 9am and 12pm.
13 July 2010
Becoming Your Child’s Emotional Coach
There is one thing that men are usually not good with, emotions. We tend to not want to show, display, or express them in public. But we still feel them.
Our children however, have no problem showing, displaying, or expressing their emotions. As a father, we need to be a part of helping our children learn to recognize, label, and control their emotions.
Read the rest at Notes on Parenting or Essential Fathers.
09 July 2010
Choose supportive friends and have a lasting marriage
Does it seem like everyone around you is separating or divorcing? Is your sibling going through a divorce? How about a close friend or coworker? If that’s the case, you may want to put some social distance between them and you.
According to recent research by McDermott, Fowler and Christakis, divorce occurs in social clusters. Not only does the divorce of a friend increase ones own chance of a divorce, but also the divorce of a friend’s friend. It doesn’t even matter if the friend’s friend lives several thousand kilometers away. It is all about social distance. However, by the third degree of separation, there isn’t that great of influence. It is just friends, and friends of friends.
The study even looked to see if children were a protective factor. Contrary to popular belief, they are not a protective factor when friends, and friends of friends are divorcing around you.
The notable protective factors in the study were education and ‘popularity’. Education in this case included young grades. So the more education collected, the more of a protective factor. The decrease happened the most after 10 years of education.
As for popularity, this isn’t the popularity we think of. Or else Hollywood marriages would last longer. Popularity in this sense is about supportive and quality friends. One needs to choose their friends wisely. Having friends that encourage, support, and have good expectations of you, help protect your marriage.
You need to have supportive friends in order for your marriage to succeed. You married your best friend. If you have friends that are undermining your best friend, you may need to reevaluate your friendship. This may sound unreasonable, but you may need to even remove certain friendships. Purge your Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, and Christmas mailing list of individuals you know shouldn’t be there.
Of course, family members you have to set up appropriate boundaries with if they are undermining your marital relationship. This may mean less phone calls, or visits. Again, remember we are talking about social distance, not geographical distance. Yes geographical distance from family members may assist, but spending less time with them limits their social influence.
Your spouse is worth that sacrifice. Making sure that your friends and family are supportive. Make sure that you have healthy networks and connections. You can choose who you have a social life with.
Most of all, don’t try to be a friend who is a “savior”. Yes it is good to be there for your friends and help them through certain life struggles. But don’t let their issues effect you, especially if they continue in their harmful ways without progress. You need to protect yourself.
Just remember, breaking up is hard to do, unless others are doing it. So keep yourself in a supportive network.
Breaking Up is Hard to Do, Unless Everyone Else is Doing it Too
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Shop Smart for Safe Food
I received the following from the Manitoba Association of Home Economists.
It is timely tips on how to shop smart for food that will reduce the risk of a food-born/related illness.
By Mary Carver, P.H.Ec.
We all love a hot summer; still, soaring temperatures increase the risk of becoming
infected with a foodborne illness.
Here are a few shopping tips to help keep food purchases safe from harmful bacteria
and reduce your risk of contracting a foodborne illness - in any weather:
Make your grocery stop, your last errand before you head home.
Consider using a hand sanitizer before and after pushing the grocery cart.
Take a cooler or an insulated bag with a frozen pack in your car to carry meat,
fish, dairy and fresh produce home from the store - especially in hot weather.
Consider carrying groceries in your air-conditioned car, rather than in a hot trunk.
Choose fruits and vegetables with the fewest cuts and bruises. Bacteria can
thrive in such damaged spots.
Despite the temptation, avoid sampling unwashed fruits or vegetables. Bear in
mind that several people handled those grapes before you.
Keep reuseable grocery bags clean. Wash bags frequently in warm, soapy water
and dedicate specific bags for fruits and veggies only. Reusable grocery bags
are for food only. Find other bags to serve as diaper bags or to carry gym clothes
or pet supplies.
Shop often to avoid overstuffing the refrigerator. Cold air (4°C/40°F or colder)
needs to circulate above and beneath food to keep it safe. You will have fewer
perishables to spoil if the power fails in a heat wave.
Separate raw meat, poultry and seafood from other foods in the shopping cart, in
grocery bags and again in your refrigerator. Despite efforts to reduce plastic, a
small plastic bag inside a reusable bag is a smart choice to reduce the risk of
meat, fish or poultry juices contaminating other food.
Pick up refrigerated and frozen items last on your trip through the grocery store
so those items are out of refrigeration for the least possible time.
For added protection against bacteria, use a disinfectant or a mild bleach solution
(1 tsp. bleach per 3 cups water) on countertops where grocery bags were set.
While this step may seem excessive to some, just think of the many places those
bags touched down before they reached your kitchen counter where you are
about to prepare lunch.
Always wash your hands for at least 20 seconds before handling food and after
handling meat, poultry, eggs and seafood.
Mary Carver, P.H.Ec is an Ottawa-based Professional Home Economist and a member
of the Ontario Home Economics Association.
Ontario Home Economics Association (OHEA) a self-regulated body of Professional
Home Economists promotes high professional standards among its members so that
they may assist families and individuals to achieve and maintain a desirable quality of
life. OHEA is a partner in the Canadian Partnership for Consumer Food Safety
Education. For more tips on food safety visit: www.canfightbac.org.