Pursuing what matters most in life; Being in the moment with those around you

It has begun to strike my heart that life is fragile, that this daily routine of striving to make a living and being with family can be gone, oh so quickly. A year ago, my family relocated to a new city. We were in the process of transferring records and the like when my then three-year-old daughter started complaining of back pain to the point of wanting to see a doctor. And when your child, at that age, asks to see a doctor, you take them.

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Creating a safe haven and secure base

It’s been almost two years since Brene Brown delivered her YouTube sensation TED talk about being vulnerable. She related how for humans, our core need and desire is security, and to do that, we have to be open and vulnerable with one another.

Back in 1957, Harry Harlow started conducting studies on rhesus monkeys where he removed the monkey from their mother and had them raised by machine mother monkeys. In some cases, there were two mothers the baby rhesus could choose from, one that was soft and covered by cloth, but did not dispense food; whereas the other was wired and could provide food. What is fascinating is that the baby monkeys chose comfort over food. Something different from Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. These monkeys spent roughly 23 hours of their day with the cloth machine mother monkey, and only went to the wire mother machine monkey when they were hungry.

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Creating a Safe Haven & Secure Base

It’s been almost two years since Brene Brown delivered heryoutube sensation TED talk about being vulnerable.  She related how for humans, our core need and desire is security, and to do that, we have to open and vulnerable with one another.

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Looking back at past family habits

A family therapist, Murray Bowen, believes you can understand a family and a person within the family unit when you investigate and analyze their past three generations. Even though everything is not biologically inherited, nor is everything a learned behaviour, it is interesting to see patterns that can be found when looking back three generations.

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Adding relevancy and rewards to goal setting

If you have ever attended a workshop on goal setting, guaranteed the workshop covered the aspect of SMART goals. SMART goals are specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-specific.

The specific part needs to be just that, specific, such as becoming more proficient at using Excel. To make the goal measurable, you need something to let you know you have completed your goal, such as participating in a three-weekend workshop on Excel that has three levels. Attainable means you have to attend those workshops on Excel. Realistic means that you don’t set the deadline for this goal to one week from now when the workshop is over three weekends, and that it fits with you. Time-specific means you set a specific end date for the goal to be accomplished, for this case, the day after the last-day of the workshops. Follow those steps, and you have a SMART goal.

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Take the Genogram Challenge: Looking back at past family habits

A family therapist, Murray Bowen, believes that you can understand a family and a person within that family unit when you investigate and analyze their past three generations.  While not everything is biologically inherited, nor is everything a learned behaviour, it is interesting to see patterns that can be found while looking three generations back.

Read the rest at Notes on Parenting.

Pursuing what matters most in life; Being in the moment with those around you

It has begun to strike my heart that life is fragile, that this daily routine of striving to make a living and being with family can be gone oh so quickly. A year ago, my family relocated to a new city, we were in the process of transferring records and the like. When my, then 3 year old daughter started complaining of back pain to the point of wanting to see a doctor. And when your child, at that age asks to see a doctor, you take them.

Read the rest at Notes on Parenting